“The only thing you sometimes have control over is perspective. You don’t have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it.” – Chris Pine
The Power of Change and New Perspectives
A stimulus is always needed for growth; whether it’s an exercise to strain the muscles and cardiovascular system, or whether it’s a mental struggle that tests your capabilities and helps you to discover more about yourself. There will always be a need for new stimulus to bring about rewarding changes in your life.

The human mind is naturally inclined to stay comfortable if it can. Challenges are stressful on the mind and body at first, but challenging the mind to grow is quite similar to strengthening the body towards growth. Like a muscle, too much challenge can begin to break you down over time. Too little challenge and there’s not enough stimulus to actually gain anything out of it. The trick is to find that sweet spot where it’s just the right amount of challenge to encourage personal growth without harming your well-being.
If you’re the type of person that is comfortable in your own little area of the world, perhaps challenge yourself one day to take a trip and visit somewhere new! If you’re a picky eater and prefer to eat the same things day in and day out, challenge yourself and try a food that’s out of your comfort zone. If you only listen to one type of music or watch one type of television show, break out of that bubble and try something new!
Life might have so much more to offer to you then what you’ve allowed yourself to take in, and who knows, you might find something that becomes a new favorite of yours. But, you sure as well won’t find it doing the same old things over and over again.
Travel itself is amazing for pushing people out of their comfort zones, because sometimes in other countries and other cultures, there is no choice but to be forced into new kinds of experiences. As frightening as that can be at times, in the aftermath of it all you will reap rewards and life lessons.
I remember when I first started to travel how many incorrect beliefs I had about the world which I needed to re-write in my mind with actual truths. Like, although most countries do have their own music and TV shows/movies, so many listen to American music and watch American programming. I wasn’t expecting that.
Also, most other countries drink espresso coffee and I didn’t know even know what the hell a Flat White was when I first arrived in New Zealand. “How the hell do I just order my coffee with two milk and two sugar?”, I thought to myself, “And why’s it so expensive?”. I can laugh about it now, but I was ignorant to certain things. It also taught me that I love espresso.
Another thing that I learned by travelling and living with others from all over the world, was just how much slang I had been using in my English vocabulary. I was hard to understand sometimes to foreigners that I would meet, because I used too much unfamiliar Ontario slang. I began to make serious efforts to express myself more meaningfully with correct English after that, and it’s helped me to be a better communicator.
Travelling with only a backpack taught me that I didn’t need a bunch of possessions to find happiness in life. Travelling without my laptop because I used to spend way too much time playing video games on it, taught me that I love to read and I love to write.
So much depth can be brought into our lives if we only open ourselves up to change and some struggle! Whether it’s the change of a career, change of location, change of interest, it doesn’t really matter. Just an openness to experiencing life outside of what is already known is what matters, because that is where you will discover more about life and about yourself. 🙂
If you are stuck in life, don’t be embarrassed. We all get stuck in routines from time to time. Sometimes we need a push to get back to really living. I’ve had those experiences as well. I’ve been stuck in jobs that have left me feeling incomplete and in relationships that make me feel like I’m drowning. It can happen and it can be exhausting, but just try to learn from those experiences for the future so that you can catch yourself when you’re in a rut.
When in a rut, we just need to remember to bring some sort of change into our lives. It’s the only way we are going to escape this feeling of being stagnant.
If life is a big bowl of wet noodles, then the number of experiences we bring into our lives is going to make that wicked sauce for flavor. Every experience we take in is another ingredient or spice added to the mix. If made correctly, it’s a heaping pile of deliciousness with lots of cheese or whatever the hell you like on your pasta.
Spoiler alert: if you like your noodles plain, then you are actually the wet noodle.
I guess the moral of this blog post is to keep things fresh and interesting. Continue to encourage growth in your life. We all go through changes in our lives and we all risk becoming stagnant at times too. Self-awareness will be integral to catching ourselves in these highs and lows in order react appropriately to our circumstances. So, as a wise man once said, “Check yourself, before you wreck yourself!“.
Learn to love the life you live, and if you don’t love it, change it!
Yes mine was change but then I grew to love it. I decided to give everything up that I know and that was familiar to me to go traveling. I go at the end of the month. It is something I have wanted to do for years. I had a beautiful life but things felt stagnant (my soul yearned to travel and to be free) and I knew that only I could facilitate that change and so I did it. The moment I made that decision and focused on my future as well as took action a way was made. I think travel is in my blood and for the first time in my life I am going to be a nomad but it just feels right and I am in flow. Yes I agree we all get stuck in routines from time to time but once we give ourselves that push then we can get moving again. Thanks for your inspiring blog. I enjoyed reading it. Your thoughts resonated with me and the blog was very helpful
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Hey! Your story resonates with me as well. When I was 22 I left my stagnant life to go travelling the same way that you have and it was the best decision that I had ever made in life. I wish you all the best and hope you soak in all of those unique experiences you will encounter so far from home. Thanks for reading. I wish you all the best.
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Hey, I am glad that my story resonated with you too. That is so good to hear and very inspiring and encouraging. Thank you very much. You are welcome and I am looking forward to reading more about your adventure. All the best to you
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traveling is the best, and we look forward to doing more of it as we get older. By the ay, I have no idea what Flat White is 🙂
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Haha a flat white is just espresso with milk froth I believe. Similar to a cappuccino. Now you know what I was dealing with.
Do you travel much Jim?
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since we have a son in Hawaii, we have been there a few times. Last year I had the chance to teach in London for a couple of months, so we did a lot of traveling then. In a few months I’ll be going to Singapore to teach for a couple of months, and so we hope to do some traveling around that part of the world. How about you? Any favorites?
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Wow Jim. You’re quite the seasoned traveler. What do you teach exactly?
The most traveling I’ve ever really done was all in the span of two years shortly after graduating college. I took 2 years to live and work in New Zealand and Australia. Best thing I ever did. New Zealand will always have a special place in my heart. What was your fave?
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I teach Accounting (that usually puts an end to any conversation). As to favorite places – London, Amsterdam, Barcelona – too hard to pick! Australia and New Zealand are on our bucket list That must have been great to spend such an extended time period somewhere like that – you really get to know the place.
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Hahaha! Yeah I did get to really know the place, I don’t know if I loved it so much that I wanted to stay for 2 years or I just didn’t want to come home to my chaotic family 😛
Accounting, okay, I could see that! So you must be a math pro then. Did you visit a cafe in amsterdam for a little smoke session?
I havent been to any of those countries
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I’m not sure if that is good that you could see me as an accounting teacher 🙂 We did not get to visit a “coffeeshop” in Amsterdam – we wanted to save something for our return visit!
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Smart thinking. You just look like a clever guy Jim.
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clever is being kind, cheap might be another way to describe me at the time…
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Oh boy, I’m the king of frugal living! No judgement here.
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I love this post so much!! Change can be scary, but like you said we will never know if we don’t try.
It wasn’t out of the country, but when I was in my early twenties I traveled by myself for the very first time, I remember feeling a little anxious that I would get lost in the airport or something (oh, my naive, twenty something brain) but I didn’t let it stop me. I flew to California & I did so much site seeing & trying new cuisines, & listening to bands I had never heard before. It was the time of my life! I truly have a gypsy soul, something about traveling, even just talking about it now has me feeling elated! My heart is just jumping at the chance to go on another adventure!
I am hoping to go to the Grand Canyon next spring. It’s a bucket list item of mine, so I’m really excited. My soul longs to visit Scotland, I will get there someday!! 🙂
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I hear you! I also have the heart of a wanderer. Have you ever watched Into the Wild? That was a big influence on me, I’d even written a post about it. I was terrified to travel alone when I was 22 also, but in retrospect, my solo travels have always been my favorite. You get to move at your own pace, do your own things and you tend to socialize more with others outside of your group. (At least that’s how it works for me).
The Grand Canyon is still a yet to see landmark for me. I would love to spend more time in California too. I’ve only spent a lot of time at the LAX in between flights. 😛
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It’s so funny you mention that. I actually haven’t seen Into the Wild (I know, such shame!) I really want to, and just yesterday I was thinking about how I need to watch it! I will have to go check out your post!
I enjoyed traveling solo, it was an experience I still hold very close to my heart. My brother lives in California, so I’ve been a few times, but I still never get to see everything I want to when I visit. My favorite places so far have been Caramel, Yosemite, and Sequoia National Forrest. I have a love for trees, especially old ones. Yosemite was absolutely breath taking!
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I love forests too, especially ancient ones. That sounds magical. If I ever plan a road trip I’ll be hitting you up for advice. 😉
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Please do!
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Travelling solo was a bit scary at first but it quickly became my preferred way to travel.
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Me too. No watering down your trip in compromise, and you tend to meet more people that way!
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Another great post and one I whole-heartedly agree with. We must push our own boundaries, whether physically, intellectually, emotionally, or spiritually. To stagnate is to die!
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So true! Wasted life is the worst fate! Thanks Brad.
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We will soon attempt our fifth European trek; every one has taken us far beyond our routines and comforts. If this one is like the others, it will join our highlight reel. Keep on writing your thoughtful posts; we all need reminders!
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Thanks a bunch Reg. That’s my hope! I love your adventurous spirit. I need more adventures in my life! It’s good for the soul!
I look forward to your photos
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Well said! Purposefully going outside our comfort zones can help us learn so much more about our strengths and weaknesses 🙂
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Very true! Thanks Tom.
What was your latest exit of your comfort zone?
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Going sea fishing for the first time – really fun to be out on the open waves & very rewarding catching fish yourself – fishhook lines are a pain though! 🙂
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Oh snap! I may need to take a lesson from you. I have a fishing pole that I’ve never used 😂. Best of luck out there!
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Whoops I read that wrong and forgot my comment lol. Did you catch anything good?
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A few mackerel which we cooked on the beach – very fresh! 🙂
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I bet that was great. It’s hard to get really good fresh fish in central Ontario.
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Really fun! 🙂 Are the rivers quite far to drive to where you are?
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No lots of rivers around. I should take up some fishing and catch my own. I just have to buy a license.
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“So much depth can be brought into our lives if we only open ourselves up to change and some struggle!”
This statement shoots arrows straight to my heart! I love it ….. it penetrates my soul. I mean, while I’m at the point of struggling, it’s not like I’m jumping for joy, haha! But it’s the attitude I actually choose to have during that moment that spells the difference. After all, we always have a choice. And that’s what I love about life. 🙂
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😀 Thank you Yeka for all of your love and support. Time for me to start answering questions on our secret project 😉
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My pleasure! 😄
And as for our secret project? …… Yay!!!! Can’t wait! Haha! 😜
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Wowohaaw… spot on… kaboom…
My feelings today… and when I read this I thought you were a smart young boy and this is really good🙏🏻
It was a journey to me to read your words….and how it ends-wow- you nailed some wise words into my soul❤️Thank you👏🏻
But, this change is also a little daunting, as I have it now, but it will be great in the end….🎶
I hope you are well❤️
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I wish I knew what you were talking about. 😉
Change is always daunting and my life is full of upcoming changes to – I know those words I speak, but even I am daunted by my changes. It’s okay to feel those anxieties a little. Just try to embrace it and trust you will be okay! You’re a strong fighter and survivor. ❤ Hope you're well too.
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Yes, it is, but I can’t grow the anxiety ..
It is challenging, but I will win this match and it is never wrong to improve for the better❤️
Thank you for having faith in me…
We are both fighters and survivors my friend.
Take care.
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You too 🙂
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Lively and interesting post Mathew.
For all sorts of reasons physical travelling as an adventure or even experience never became an option for us.
Still we have our minds and our laptops.
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Well that helps to introduce yourself to new stimuli at least. Never did much travelling?
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Very little. Life turned out that way.
In my head….different matter altogether 😃
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Great post Mathew. Wow, backpack travelling sounds nice, always admire them when I see them. In my opinion people who travels in any kind of way gets more experience and wisdom such as you, and that makes them more flexible and able to adopt change or tougher to try new things.
The stuff I tried which I was scared of? Plenty. So much I can write a book about them.
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Write a book about them then 😉
Travel is definitely a very valuable experience!
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😄 Maybe one day…
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