“There is no job more important than parenting. This I believe.” – Ben Carson
Parenting
Everyone has different styles and rules that they like to follow when it comes to proper parenting. For some people, discussing the “proper” way to parent can be an entirely contentious issue. I suppose that I have a simpler idea of what it means to be a good parent.
So I’ve compiled 5 points that I believe are indisputable traits of a good parent or guardian.
Love Your Children
This should go without saying, right?
Unfortunately there are some parents out there that see their children as more of a curse then a blessing. A curse or an instrument of some sort to carry on their own egotistical legacy. Something of that sort. It’s also possible that some parents feel burdened and weighed down by their children. Sure, maybe that’s frustrating if it’s affecting your life somehow, being a parent isn’t always easy. Just love your damn children, because it’s not their fault.
A kid that is love will grow up to feel happy and whole. With someone there to love them and support them, they will feel secure about their lives. They will grow up with a positive outlook on life. They will be saved from some debilitating emotional anxieties when they grow up. Love them like you were loved as a child, and try to improve upon that experience as best as you can. What were you missing growing up?
Love them and do your best to never hurt them.
Nurture Their Intellect and Creativity
Whenever you get the chance, spend time with your child in a meaningful way. Interact with them. Introduce them to stimulating new experiences. If they watch television, try to introduce them to television that inspires or teaches.
I love to read books to my daughter, it’s my favorite thing to do with her. I even went as far as to buy my old favorite book, “The Monster at the End of This Book” for my daughter. I would say it’s because it’s intellectually stimulating stuff, but that would be a lie. I just have a kid now, so I can buy kid’s stuff for myself again! Woot woot.

Care For Their Needs
Just do your best to provide for your children. Put them first. This goes hand in hand with loving them. This little person needs you. Do your best to care for them. Make sure they don’t go hungry and that they have a roof over their head. Do your best to make sure that they’re safe. We can’t control everything that happens to our children, but we can sure help the odds of things not happening to them.
Raise Them to Prepare Them for the World
They need to be able to handle the world when they leave your care, prepare them for the future. Encourage their education and interests. Encourage them to establish healthy relationships and love, love, love them all the way through. As they grow older, begin to gently and slowly allow them more freedoms so that they can begin to make decisions for themselves. Allow them to choose certain interests of their own and don’t constantly push your own interests on them if they’re disinterested. They need to become their own people. Teach them skills which will allow them to feed themselves, and take care of their adult responsibilities. Lead by example. If you don’t know something, learn it and teach them.
You’re training them to have a better shot at life then you had after all, and if they do the same when they have a child then, wow! That’s going to be one bright grandchild! You’re investing in your future generations, not just your little darling.
Love Yourself Too
When you care about yourself and take care of yourself, you’re better able to love and provide for another. So don’t forget yourself when you’re busy taking care of your loved ones. Always remember that you’re deserving of your own love, appreciation and gratitude for all you do. Your child’s never going to be able to give you the self-love that you really need to show yourself. They might help fill the void momentarily but you truly need to love yourself, or risk becoming over dependent on them and possibly suffocating them too. Self-love is always important! So love yourself.
To Sum It All Up
Your goal is to provide for your children a better life than you’ve had as a child, to the best of your abilities. Emotionally, physically and mentally. We can not control everything that life will throw at our kids, but to the best of our abilities we should be trying. To top it all off, remember to love yourself and forgive yourself of your mistakes as a parent. You are still a human and we will all make mistakes. We can only help our children through life by giving them the tools and opportunity to live it well but we can not protect them from everything that life can bring. Be gentle on yourself if you want to be able to be really strong for your child. Love yourself, so that you can love them with 100% of your heart.
Nothing else matters nearly as much as these important traits in a parent.
Sounds good! I did all that, tried to ignore trends and dumb advice, and have two successful and happy adult daughters. They are not clones of me, or of each other, which is fine! I encouraged independent thought. My ex… not so much. He bailed. His loss!
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Yeah, I’ve never been a trend or a fad junkie. People have been raising kids for thousands of years without some of these child rearing “How-to’s” 😝
Sorry to hear about your baby daddy. That’s tough on the girls I imagine. I’m glad they’re happy adults!
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Heyy!!!🙋 I would like to nominate you for the Behind the blogger 2.0 tag📝 in my today’s post
Do participate😄💐
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Thanks again Manjul. I will try to participate via your comments 😉
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Ohh that would be great😄🌼
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Fantastic..
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Thank you!
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Great post and I agree. It is truly the hardest but most 8mportant job a person can have. The last photo is dear, is it you and your child?
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Absolutely it is, the day after she was born. We were in the hospital for 3 days with her because she had inhaled some fluid in the womb.
Thank you ❤
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Beautiful, congratulations!
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Thanks a bunch 🙂
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That Elmo book is one of my favorites!
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Hahah… I know I’ve read it about 4 times to my daughter already. I think I like it more than her. 😀
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great post, Mat! As you say, nothing is more important.
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Thanks Jim. This one came out of me because of debates I’ve been having with my baby mama about the right way to raise my daughter 😛
So I wrote this up and told her, this is what I think is important. Everything else is personal preference really. lol…
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seems like you know what you are doing! good luck with your daughter!
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Thanks a bunch. 🙂
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Got nothing more to say because I believe that these 5 points are spot on. Maybe #6 Give them freedom but guide them wisely? Haha 😀
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Good one 😉
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This made me cry, I did not know you have a daughter. I cried because this was all I ever wanted from my dad. I wished to be loved and not neglected by him. It fills my heart with so much happiness that there are fathers out there who actually know what it takes to be a father. Your daughter is so lucky to have an incredible dad like you 💚
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Thanks so much for saying so ❤ I too had a shitty Dad that was hurtful all my life. I haven’t spoken with him in a few years now, because my life is unfortunately better off that way. It taught me what I did not want to be anyways…*hugs*
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I’m the exact same, I kept giving my dad chance after chance and he just kept manipulating them. During all that happened last year, I caught him out on things that I will never forgive him for. Plus saying horrible things to me, but I’m so much better off without him! *Hugs* 💚
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Reblogged this on Nilesh Sharma and commented:
Read this beautiful post on parenting, loved it and hence re-blogging it.
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Thanks so much ❤
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Hi Mathew,
Loved your post,this is something even I believe in and follow.
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I’m very happy that it’s resonated with you. Do you have children?
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Yes two. An angel and a devil :)))
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Hahah… A story as old as time…
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Yes history repeats 🙂
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very well said ❤️
my friends would ask me for tips on good parenting, and i always reply with “what i didn’t get as a kid growing up, i give it all towards my son.”
the love, attention, independence, and support.
also.. not having him feel like the things i did for him was because i had to.. but because i wanted to. if that makes any sense.
great post!
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True. What you didnt get as a kid and all the good stuff you did too.
And that does make sense. Thanks for sharing! I like simple rules as much as you.
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Nice parenting tips.
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And along the way you will make mistakes, it goes with the turf. But through those times keep the love flowing and when the dust settles think
‘That could have gone better. Don’t let it happen again,’
I have a big box load of them but we are still tight and love each other.
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Wonderful advice Roger, thank you. Yes, its impossible to stay a perfect parent for 18 years I think x.X
That’s part of being human. Just own the mistakes when they happen, I suppose.
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Yep. And accept that your ‘little ones’ will make their own…big time on occasions, but you still keep loving them.
PS- Even when they are in their forties, they are still your little ones.
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Hahah, absolutely. Truly some heart-felt advice their Roger.
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WE ‘survived’ three ‘teenagehoods’ 🥴
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I tip my hat to you
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You’ll pick it up as you go along.
(The helpful phrase to say to yourself is ‘Uhh! Teenagers! Never mind one day they’ll have teenagers of their own!’….it helps 😉)
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Beautiful post! You’re right that some parents do not love their children. The Bible mentions that in the last days men will have “no natural affection” or will be “loveless” (2 Timothy 3:1,3) and we certainly see that today. I wish my father showed the you listed characteristics. Thanks for sharing.
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